From Jo in Chile:
Hey Erin, how are u? Well I’m from Chile so my English is not very good, but I’m trying to do my best for you to understand my letter.
I need some advice to declare my love to a woman, I have been in love with her for 2 years and know I want to tell her how much I love her, and maybe you can also give me advice to flirt with her.
I hope you answer my letter.
Take care Erin.
~Jo
Penny’s Advice:
Dear Jo,
Telling anyone that you are in love with them is a courageous act! It is an act of vulnerability, but it reaps us life’s greatest rewards. Doesn’t it feel great to be in love?!?
Now, the hard part…how do you tell her? Since I’m not clear on the particulars, I’ll assume you two already have some type of relationship. Love can be revealed in lots of different ways—candlelight dinners, poems, letters, cards, and heart-felt conversations. Start implementing these “romance” tools a little at a time. Download her favorite music and burn her a CD. Plant her favorite flowers in a beautiful pot and give them to her. In other words, romance her intentionally. Exhibiting love will lead naturally to verbally expressing it!
More than anything have fun! Being in love can be the most wonderful experience of your life!
Erin’s Advice:
Dear Jo,
Hurrah for you! I’m going to shout out Penny’s last statement, “More than anything, have fun! Being in love can be the most wonderful experience of your life!” It’s like the Franklin P. Jones quote, “Love doesn’t make the world go ’round. Love is what makes the ride worthwhile.” In being the most wonderful, worthwhile thing, however, that does mean it can also have, its downfalls, the things we all fear when we take a risk and love. If you can, don’t let those fears keep you from expressing and experiencing your love. In my humble opinion, love is the base reason we are all here. Experience it, be it, express it, enjoy it, fall into it, LOVE it!!
Now, you asked me for advice, and since Penny already gave you some great ideas on how to tell her, I would like to offer you this: No matter how she responds, whether she reciprocates your love or turns it down, I beg you to hold on to this experience for what it has done for you, and how it has made you feel. What I am saying is, take responsibility for your own feelings, and do not let others words or actions dictate how you feel about yourself and your feelings. Does that make sense? It took my partner a year and a half to finally come around to being in a relationship with me, although I knew from the first moment we met. All I could do was love, and I was so happy with that. I didn’t need for my love to be recuperated because I was secure in my feelings and the feeling of loving was exquisite enough.
Does anyone have a story they want to share on how they told their partner they loved them? Or was anyone the person being told? Share your stories here if you feel comfortable, you never know whose life you might change.
I will close with another quote: “I love you not because of who you are, but because of who I am when I am with you.” – Author Unknown
Blessings
The first person I fell in love with, she held my hand one night when we were lying on a playground looking up to the sky. The sky was full of stars that night. We talked about many many things, and suddenly she held my hand and said,’haven’t have a chance to hold you with passion, you always look cold.’ It was that moment I knew she had been keeping her feelings for me 3 years, she confessed. I felt the same for her but had no courage to expressed, she sensed it somehow. So, we had been loving each other for quite some time but not expressing it because of family and society.
I am a shy person, never would have courage to express my feelings. Erin is right, love is an exquisite feeling, and it is nothing wrong to love someone. No matter what will happen, you will not regret because you are sincere.
Please let us know what happen…
My sincere wishes to you
wooaahh!!
I came across this website a couple of months ago…this is the first time I actually write something here…
jo- how many moment in you life can you point and say that’s when it all changed?? not many huh??…don’t go with your dreams untold…stand up to what you believe and what you actually feel…most people search their whole lives for something to feel…most people never find anything…you’re the lucky one in the story…because you found it…and you want to fight for what you want…oohh remember girls just want somebody who wants them back…that’s the secret to every relationship…
i’m really amazed…you know who you are…most people don’t and that is why they’re afraid and lie…so people don’t find out who they are before they do…
there is one word that’s universal…it free us from pain…lies…cries…the word is love…you will find stillness and bravery to declare your love to you friend…so good luck…
when i told my first I LOVE YOU…i was so afraid that maybe he wasn’t going to say it back..turns out we were both afraid of the same thing…it took us a little over a year…and then just like that it came out…it’s the most wonderful thing to hear…and feel…
peace out…!!
I remember when i fell in love with a woman. She was my fist love actually. I met her the first day of my freshman year in high school. She was a senior. When we first met i didnt even like her, But over time we become friends, and then best friends, and then we were closer than we could get. I had all these feelings running inside me that i just couldnt keep inside anymore so i ended up telling her. She was really cool about the whole thing but did express that she did not feel the same. We went through a lot together before and after that. I still remember laying on my bed at 11 o clock on a monday not when she text me asking if i was up. I was half asleep but wanted to make sure she was okay. Thats when she told me that somewhere down the line she had fallen in love with me too. I did not sleep that night. All i kept thinking was, “what now?” well she made that choice for me. She was scared and just left, not caring how it hurt me. She still wont talk to me now and its been four years. I never thought love would or could hurt this bad. i havent let anyone love me since, male or female. i guess i would feel better and be able to move on if i only knew what she was thinking when she left. and if it even hurt her at all to leave. With what happened to me during that experience i dont think i could ever love again.
Hola erin
Que gusto me da poder escribirte primero que nada quiero felicitarte por la fantástica actuación que hiciste en loving anabelle y en todas tus demás cintas soy admiradora tuya al cien por ciento y además de tu profesionalismo eres realmente hermosa y te pienso a cada momento a pesar de la distancia.
bueno mi nombre es Dayan Castañeda, tengo 20 años y te escribo desde Colombia en un pueblo retirado de la capital, se que tu más que nadie puede ayudarme con lo que me está pasando en este momento, soy lesbiana y realmente no ha sido fácil de manejar, he intentado suicidarme y la verdad es que en ocasiones quisiera morir, me he enamorado de muchas mujeres pero jamás he tenido respuesta alguna de ninguna tengo este sentimiento desde que tengo uso de razón y estoy pasando por una situación muy difícil, tengo miedo mi mama dice que una confusión ya que ella supo hace poco esto la veo con mucha tristeza en un su mirada, estoy segura que mi familia me juzgaría, esto me hace sentir demasiado deprimida, pero no creo que sea una etapa en mi vida, que se una confusión…
Solo sé que mi mama dentro de su corazón jamás va a aceptar que yo tenga una relación con otra mujer sería muy duro para ella.
Solo estoy pasándola demasiado mal, ya que hace unos días fui al psicólogo y fue la primera vez que le conté a alguien mi situación, pero este especialista me envió al psiquiatra donde empezare a tomar terapias continuas, te pido ayuda se que lo harás, quiero encontrar consuelo en alguien que verdaderamente entienda mi dolor, quiero consuelo en alguien que pueda hacerme ver la vida de otra forma y que no todo está perdido. Te amo eres la mujer más linda del mundo espero que tu carrera como actriz siga creciendo y puedas ser muy reconocida en los medio te deseo los mejores éxitos.
SABES! no te imaginas la alegría que sentiría si pudieras contestar este mensaje y darme los mejores consejos seria lo máximo.
Que dios te bendiga a ti a tus proyectos y a tu familia.
Posdata: no puedo enviarte la traducción a ingles porque no queda bien redactada solo espero que de una manera u otra puedas entender mi mensaje BESOS TE APRECIO MUCHO!
apryl,
i havehad tha same type of experience ecept i was the one who left i was a senoir and she was the freshman her name was kayla cook and boy did i love her and still do i was living in tennessee and atending east hickman high school and over christmas break i went to visit my mom in ohio well while i was there i had selpt with my first guy because i was upset wanting to be the only one in her life but she dated a guy that we had to hide our feelings from its like knew we dated but he made her leave me and then she came to me and said she cant go through life without me so we dated in hinding well so when i was in ohio my mom asked me to mover with her and i did but i left with my heart falling to peices standing there in the hall after withdrawling myself from the best school ever. and holding the only person i have ever loved and prolly the only person ill ever love in my arms one last time us crying the whole time i left and i left my heart behind it feels. im sorry because when you said your story it felt like kayla telling her part and if it was i would tell her that i think about her all the time its been about four years since i have seen her as well and not a day goes by that i dont think of her. i tought this may be able to help you as well so you can see that she prolly feels the same as i do for kayla. if you want to talk more my e-mail is lezdawn@yahoo.com .
the quote “I love you not because of who you are, but because of who I am when I am with you.” is an Italian writer … Fabio Volo