From Jo in Chile:
Hey Erin, how are u? Well I’m from Chile so my English is not very good, but I’m trying to do my best for you to understand my letter.
I need some advice to declare my love to a woman, I have been in love with her for 2 years and know I want to tell her how much I love her, and maybe you can also give me advice to flirt with her.
I hope you answer my letter.
Take care Erin.
Telling anyone that you are in love with them is a courageous act! It is an act of vulnerability, but it reaps us life’s greatest rewards. Doesn’t it feel great to be in love?!?
Now, the hard part…how do you tell her? Since I’m not clear on the particulars, I’ll assume you two already have some type of relationship. Love can be revealed in lots of different ways—candlelight dinners, poems, letters, cards, and heart-felt conversations. Start implementing these “romance” tools a little at a time. Download her favorite music and burn her a CD. Plant her favorite flowers in a beautiful pot and give them to her. In other words, romance her intentionally. Exhibiting love will lead naturally to verbally expressing it!
More than anything have fun! Being in love can be the most wonderful experience of your life!
Hurrah for you! I’m going to shout out Penny’s last statement, “More than anything, have fun! Being in love can be the most wonderful experience of your life!” It’s like the Franklin P. Jones quote, “Love doesn’t make the world go ’round. Love is what makes the ride worthwhile.” In being the most wonderful, worthwhile thing, however, that does mean it can also have, its downfalls, the things we all fear when we take a risk and love. If you can, don’t let those fears keep you from expressing and experiencing your love. In my humble opinion, love is the base reason we are all here. Experience it, be it, express it, enjoy it, fall into it, LOVE it!!
Now, you asked me for advice, and since Penny already gave you some great ideas on how to tell her, I would like to offer you this: No matter how she responds, whether she reciprocates your love or turns it down, I beg you to hold on to this experience for what it has done for you, and how it has made you feel. What I am saying is, take responsibility for your own feelings, and do not let others words or actions dictate how you feel about yourself and your feelings. Does that make sense? It took my partner a year and a half to finally come around to being in a relationship with me, although I knew from the first moment we met. All I could do was love, and I was so happy with that. I didn’t need for my love to be recuperated because I was secure in my feelings and the feeling of loving was exquisite enough.
Does anyone have a story they want to share on how they told their partner they loved them? Or was anyone the person being told? Share your stories here if you feel comfortable, you never know whose life you might change.
I will close with another quote: “I love you not because of who you are, but because of who I am when I am with you.” – Author Unknown